楊絳先生說，女人想開了，就會明白，在這個世界上，你就是你。你痛，痛你自己，你累，累你自己。就算有人同情你那又怎樣，最后收拾殘局的，還是要靠你自己，天上下雨，地上滑，自己摔倒，自己爬起，有你錦上添花，沒你依舊風(fēng)華。記住，有些人可以期待，但別依賴。

一個女人的心性，就是她的運(yùn)道。

女人越懂得為自己，懂得靠自己，能夠有能力給自己幸福，才是最好命的。

因為在這個世界上，誰都靠不住，根本也沒有感同身受這回事，唯有學(xué)會愛自己，為自己謀生，強(qiáng)大自己內(nèi)心的女人，才能讓自己過得好。

一個女人，身上有這3個特質(zhì)，多半是命好的征兆，想不幸福都難。

一、堅定自己的事業(yè)，不輕易為誰放棄。

女人這輩子，并不是嫁給了一個有錢的男人就會變得好命，別人能給你的，也同樣會收回去。

而自己給自己的，永遠(yuǎn)都屬于你自己的。

女人要清醒一點(diǎn)，在感情和事業(yè)面前，能夠選擇事業(yè)的女人，反而是最好命的，因為她們看透了現(xiàn)實(shí)，也明白了幸福不是靠別人施舍給自己，而是靠自己去爭取的，始終給自己留退路，能夠給自己賺足了底氣，有自己的事業(yè)，就會有自己的收入，從而會讓自己的生活得到保障。

即使在婚姻中，男人有一天靠不住了，那么也能夠靠自己，保持生活的質(zhì)量，這就是有底氣的女人，靠著自己的收入，不用看任何人的臉色，都能夠讓自己過得好，而不是把男人當(dāng)成是自己唯一的依靠，到頭來，真正能夠靠得住的，永遠(yuǎn)都是自己。

二、懂得取悅自己。

楊絳先生有一句很經(jīng)典的話說，歲月靜好是片刻，一地雞毛是日常，即使世界偶爾薄涼，內(nèi)心也要繁花似錦，淺淺喜，靜靜愛，深深懂得，淡淡釋懷，不去驚艷誰的人生，只溫柔自己的歲月！

是的，懂得取悅自己的女人，會清楚地明白，盡管過好自己的生活，不會為了不值得的人生氣，更不會為了不愛自己的人去傷害自己，不會去想著要驚艷誰的人生，而是想著溫柔自己的歲月。

女人這一生，你要知道，你就是你，是獨(dú)一無二的自己，天空海闊，做最堅強(qiáng)的泡沫。

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在這個世界上，有太多的猝不及防，我們不必太傷感，有些人根本不配占有你的情緒，你不必難過，不必生氣。

人生最好的活法，就是愛自己，就是取悅自己，去生活，去感受，去遇見，勇敢活出自己。

三、允許自己走錯路，不內(nèi)耗自己。

很欣賞《玫瑰的故事》中玫瑰的為人，她就是不會內(nèi)耗自己的人，即使自己在感情上有過很多彎路，先是在初戀中受傷，失望，到婚姻中寒心，到遇到真愛時卻無法長久擁有的遺憾，到最后學(xué)會拒絕，瀟灑做自己，這就是她的魅力。

她的每一段感情經(jīng)歷中都能夠很快走出來，不會因此困住自己的腳步，這就是不內(nèi)耗。

一個女人能夠允許自己走錯路，從而及時止損，不會想太多，也不會活在痛苦之中，而是勇敢走出去，始終保持熱愛生活的態(tài)度，重新開始自己的生活，不會弄丟自己，該忘的忘，該放的放，讓心歸零，微笑前行。

如此，始終能夠越過越好命。