楊絳說過，女人想開了，就會明白，在這個世界上，你就是你。你痛，痛你自己，你累，累你自己。就算有人同情你那又怎樣，最后收拾殘局的，還是要靠你自己，天上下雨，地上滑，自己摔倒，自己爬起，有你錦上添花，沒你依舊風華。記住，有些人可以期待，但別依賴。

深以為然。

女人這一生，最值得依靠的人，其實不是別人，而是自己。永遠不要高估自己與任何人的關系，一切只能靠自己，讓自己獨立起來，才是人生最大的底氣。

因此，女人最大的底氣，來源于這兩樣東西，希望你也有。

01

保持持續學習的能力，強大自己

楊絳先生一生與書為伴，她說，“讀書不是為了拿文憑或發財，而是成為一個有溫度、懂情趣、會思考的人?！?/p>

楊絳堅持學習，讀書，她的作品，也治愈了無數人，她能夠在苦難中堅守過來，都是因為她始終保持學習的能力。

楊絳還有一句很經典的話說，你的問題在于讀書太少，而想得太多。

因此，女人這一生，最大的底氣，不是外貌多好看，而是自己內心的豐盈。

想起《玫瑰的故事》中的黃亦玫，她最大的底氣，就是持續學習的能力。

她在女兒面前說，當你學會了如何學習，那么你需要學什么就學什么，想學什么就學，學習就會成為了你的舒適圈。

黃亦玫剛大學畢業的時候，去面試，面試官看到她的學歷，問她怎么不直接考研，她說，學習就是自己的舒適圈，想要跳出舒適圈看看自己能干什么。

因此，學習就是她最大的底氣。

后來她因為感情問題，而選擇了辭職，從而去考研，很輕而易舉就考上了研究生，畢業之后，更是很容易找到了工作。

結婚之后，她即使放棄了工作，也保持學習的能力，在家里靠自學，考了很多證書，后來重新去面試的時候，別人看到她那些證書，肯定了她的能力，她就面試成功了。

到她離婚之后，她依然是保持學習的熱愛，她也實現了經濟獨立，不管學什么都有底氣，不用看任何人的臉色，也不需考慮什么。

一個女人想要活得好，最大的底氣就是保持持續學習的能力，才能強大自己，讓自己擁有底氣，實現獨立，讓自己的人生閃閃發光。

02

擁有積極樂觀的心態

人的一生，總是會遇到各種各樣的難題和坎坷，不管人生經歷什么，我們都要保持積極樂觀的心態去面對生活的一切。

人生無常，世事難料，唯有保持內心的淡定和從容，才能看到人生最曼妙的風景。

真正強大的女人，不管遇到什么事情，都能夠在痛苦中保持積極樂觀的心態，不在意別人的目光，不在乎別人的評價，始終保持做自己。

你的心態，決定你的人生，心態好，人生才會好。

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對于一個女人來說，不念過往，不懼困難，不困于情，不畏將來，積極樂觀面對生活，允許人生一切發生，就是好的心態。

楊絳先生說，做一個淡雅的女人，有一個幸福人生，飽滿一個豐富的生命，珍惜并享受之中那一份淡然的輕盈，從容地越過層層的荊棘，沾滿一身幸福的清香。

希望你不要去想著驚艷誰的人生，而是溫柔自己的歲月就好，歲月賜予你的，就是你的底氣，讓你的人生熠熠生輝。